Q&A

These are questions I've gotten from Instagram DM's after I posted a story saying I was putting together a Q&A! I've compiled those + a few other ones I've gotten over the course of the year. I hope my answers help any of you who are new moms, pregnant, or planning on becoming pregnant! I decided to separate them into categories: pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, & baby.

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Q. What was the first sign you had?
A. So I ended up taking a pregnancy test a couple days before my missed period because I had a strong gut feeling that I was. I was so bloated (like my clothes were uncomfortable) and sooo tired. We were in NYC the week before I found out and I literally could have slept the entire time. Also, my nose was so stuffy. Like painfully stuffy. This is because you have more blood circulating, which can make the tiny blood vessels inside your nose swell and lead to nasal congestion. I remember being on the plane heading back to Tulsa and the inside of my nose hurt. 
Q. Did you have any "weird" pregnancy symptoms?
A. This will be a long answer. Um yes. I think I had every symptom there is. The nose thing led to constant sneezing. I had class everyday and sneezed at least 5 times in all of my classes. Everyday. Also during the first trimester about 3 different times I had really bad eye floaters. Like I would have to pull over because I literally couldn't see - it was scary! It sometimes is a blood pressure thing but that wasn't the case for me. The change in hormones can cause an ocular migraine. It went away after 10-15 min... but still, not fun. Another thing towards the end of the first trimester, I was SO itchy. Like everywhere. My OB just said to use lotion with vitamin e in it. *DON'T GOOGLE YOUR SYMPTOMS* Google will freak you out. Just call your doctor. I had nausea, vomiting (normal) and heartburn a little towards the end (normal). 
Q. Did you like being pregnant? 
A. This was asked a couple times. Yes and No. I hate throwing up and being nauseous. Sleeping was so rough (I literally owe all the sleep I did get to the Snoogle pregnancy pillow). Sometimes I felt really self conscious. I will (hopefully) never have a summer pregnancy again. Yeah, the pool is nice but once it hits July it's not even refreshing anymore because even the water is too warm. BUT there was obviously positive things about it - feeling your baby kick is amazing! I didn't feel truly "pregnant" until he started moving around. Also, people are insanely nice to you when you're preggo. There's lots of perks. Like getting a baby at the end!! 
Q. Did you have any weird cravings?
A. I wouldn't say I had "weird" ones. I honestly just craved food. Allll the time. Mainly chick-fil-a, donuts and fruit. And milk... which is weird because I wasn't a big milk drinker at all. I got chocolate milk before class a lot. Super healthy!!!  (Not) Next go around I'm definitely going to try to be better. I will say though that I drank tons of water. Which is obviously very important. 
Q. How much weight did you gain? 
A. Yes someone asked this lol. I gained 35 lbs. I felt ginormous.  
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Q. Why did you choose to do it naturally and was it really that bad?
A. I wanted to do what my body was literally made to do. What millions of women had done before me. I knew it was the best thing for myself and my baby! Yes, it was really that bad. It's not easy but I'll do it again. 
Q. Did you tear?
A. Yes. Minor. Which most tears are! And it healed fast. Annnd everything goes back to normal after a few months. :) Honestly that was the least of my concern... I just wanted the baby OUT. 90% of women tear to some extent during childbirth. Sometimes your doctor will make an incision called an episiotomy if they think you're going to tear really bad (like 3rd degree or 4th degree). 
Q. Did you take any birthing classes?
A. Anthony and I went to one when I was 8 months pregnant. We thought it was going to be hands-on like the classes you see in the movies, but it was more like a lecture. We learned a lot though! And I liked watching the real birth videos. I would definitely recommend going to one or even more. You can never be too prepared. 
Q. Would you have changed anything about Nixon's birth?
A. I wish I could have delivered him in the bath but that wasn't an option at the hospital we were at. That's my goal for #2.
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Q. Does breastfeeding hurt?
A. For the few couple months - yes. Even with a nipple shield, which is the only way he'll nurse STILL. I could barely even wrap a towel around me after the shower because my nips were raw and hurt so bad. Pumping hurt too and sometimes I would have to take a break. Now I don't even feel them (just bein honest!!!) He is 6.5 months now and I don't remember the last time it was painful. You just have to WANT to do it and you'll get through it. It's the best for you + baby. 
Q. How long are you going to breastfeed for?
A. Well my goal at the beginning was 6 months and we're past that now... so I really don't know. Some days I feel like I'm 100% done/over it. And other days I'm like "I'm not readyyyy". So we'll see. Your guess is as good as mine. 
Q. Are you worried about your boobs looking different?
A. I honestly miss my small boobs so much. I went from an "big" A to a C (almost a D). I just hope they shrink back! Maybe I'll consider getting them done after I'm finished having kids. But I'm not worried about it. I'm just proud of my boobs for supplying my baby with everything he needs to be healthy and grow. I never want to take that for granted. 
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Q. How has it been adjusting to parenthood?
A. Honestly easier/better than I expected it to be. Nixon is SUCH a good baby... not that we have anything to compare him to, but everyone that meets him is in awe at how good/chill he is. I really think God blessed us with an easy baby for a first child. People say it's natures way of making sure you have more!! 
Q. Is he sleeping through the night?
A. We got this question so. many. times. Anthony and I would start to just look at each other and say "yep!" Just don't ask it :) It's annoying. Because more than likely the baby isn't and everyone's tired and that's life!! Literally, ask anything else besides that. 
Q. What products did you register for and realize you did NOT need?
A. I really had to think about this one because I feel like we used/still use so much. There were a couple things that I wanted strictly for pictures (like the blooming bath) that ended up not being super useful. I found it awkward. I would definitely say to make sure you read all the reviews of everything you register for and make sure its worth it! Most things are. 
Q. Where do you buy his clothes? 
A. Short answer: everywhere! ...Target, Buy Buy Baby, Amazon, online boutiques. I'm always looking for cute, inexpensive clothes for him. I love neutral colors mostly. H&M and Zara always have cute stuff. I've gotten him clothes from consignment stores. I shop for him like I shop for myself honestly. I will say one of my favorite brands is Burt's Bees Baby! All their stuff is 100% organic cotton and not expensive. I love the bandana bibs to "accessorize" his outfits. And GeorgeHats of course. 
Q. Favorite baby books?
A. I think my favorite ones for him are the ones that I grew up reading. Goodnight Moon, The Very Hungry Caterpillar, Love You Forever (**tears**), Corduroy. I'm obsessed with the Golden Books and Nixon already has a good collection. I love how some that we have are super old (like 1960s) and some are brand new. We try to read him 2-3 books every night before bed! 
Q. What's his favorite thing to eat? 
A. So far he hasn't been super picky! He loves apple sauce, green beans, avocado, lentils, greek yogurt. He isn't the biggest fan of banana or peas (yet.) It's fun trying new things every week! We started scrambled eggs (just the yolk) but he's still getting the hang of grabbing the food and getting it in his mouth. It's so cute and funny to watch.  

Thank you for reading! Leave any other questions you might have in the comment section. xo

Ashton Noto